Depression

I definately understand needing to have a plan when you are going thru difficult times. You wrote that you are trying to deal with everything by yourself, can I ask if there is a reason you are not looking for support...or is support not there for you right now? Making a new start with current health challenges does sound even more challenging..are there support groups around you can go to as well as being online? I am not sure if traveling is difficult, it may be. When trying to put a plan together I alwasy ask myself first what I want and need and then think about how i can get there and the challenges that are in my way. If there are others who have the same health challenges it would be a great idea to seek them out, perhaps your doctor knows of support group or forum.
I may be saying things you already know...I probably am. You have my support and like the other members I will be here to listen (or read).

Warmly,
Kellie Montgomery< LMFt

I can totally understand your feelings and frustrations right now in your life. Outbreaks of increased chronic pain can make anyone just sit still and not want to do anything that may bring on more pain. Carrying chronic pain with you everyday is very exhausting both physically and mentally and is hard to stay positive. Especially if there is no one nearby to listen and support you. I started with chronic pain in my upper back and neck 33 years ago. Chronic pain can start very slowly and as it increases it starts to alter your lifestyle and how you deal with everyday life. It takes away the joys you should have experienced on that special day but instead you spent most of your day dealing with the pain. Kellie, I feel your comments were very good and right on target. A person with short or long term chronic pain still needs to have a schedule to give them direction in life, and if you don't make all the goals of that day because of the pain, so be it. My experience over the past 33 years is chronic pain comes in waves with outbreaks that make it hard to get anything done. When the pain subsides a bit, try to nibble away at the "to do list", but with chronic pain, I think you should also have a "to do that's fun list" also. I have tried to balance the good days with the bad days and it is hard sometimes, but hang in there and try to stay positive. I hope that they can find and resolve your pain quickly. Good Luck and I will keep in touch.

Hi Change2012,

I'm so sorry to hear your going through depression, I too have experienced depression on and off, and know how difficult it can be.
It's seems that many times, my depression goes hand in hand with chronic pain.

What's helped me in the past is doing a very simple "emotional exercise," which seems to release feelings of pain, fear, sadness, etc. After releasing these painful emotions I feel somewhat better. Releasing painful emotions is always good, especially when you are able to do it in a positive format.

If you can just concentrate on taking so called "baby steps." Try staying in the present moment too, so many of our fears are in the future. I've noticed when I'm in the present moment, I feel much more connected to my Divine Source. Much more empowered.

Also, try to separate yourself from "the feeling" of depression, know that it's not "who you are." Make a list of all your positive attributes, and characteristics and try "focusing" on this instead.

Sometimes reading spiritual books that I like can help. You don't have to read the whole book, but maybe just page through, sometimes, just a few words helps me to feel a little more uplifted.

It's difficult getting out and about when I'm feeling depressed, but sometimes I try and do it anyway. I try doing anything that will lift my spirits, perhaps shopping, volunteering or visiting a senior,whatever it might be.

When I feel the depression I try to acknowledge it,saying, it's ok, "I'm a very lovable person," and this "feeling" shall pass. "It's not who I am." For some reason "acknowledging" the depression seems to take some of the power away. Just acknowledging it, knowing it's not shameful or weak, helps me feel more empowered.

There are many natural antidepressant also, that can take the edge off. I've had help through the years with various supplements, and homeopathy...with homeopathy, it helps if you can find a good practitioner.

Just curious if Social Security Disability an option for you?
Something to maybe think about.

Those are a few of the things I try...I sure hope your feel better,
I know it's not easy, your a true warrior, I admire all your determination and perserverance! Keep reaching out for help.
God Bless,

Dancingspirit

Hi Change2012,

I'm so sorry to hear your going through depression, I too have experienced depression on and off, and know how difficult it can be.
It's seems that many times, my depression goes hand in hand with chronic pain.

What's helped me in the past is doing a very simple "emotional exercise," which seems to release feelings of pain, fear, sadness, etc. After releasing these painful emotions I feel somewhat better. Releasing painful emotions is always good, especially when you are able to do it in a positive format.

If you can just concentrate on taking so called "baby steps." Try staying in the present moment too, so many of our fears are in the future. I've noticed when I'm in the present moment, I feel much more connected to my Divine Source. Much more empowered.

Also, try to separate yourself from "the feeling" of depression, know that it's not "who you are." Make a list of all your positive attributes, and characteristics and try "focusing" on this instead.

Sometimes reading spiritual books that I like can help. You don't have to read the whole book, but maybe just page through, sometimes, just a few words helps me to feel a little more uplifted.

It's difficult getting out and about when I'm feeling depressed, but sometimes I try and do it anyway. I try doing anything that will lift my spirits, perhaps shopping, volunteering or visiting a senior,whatever it might be.

When I feel the depression I try to acknowledge it,saying, it's ok, "I'm a very lovable person," and this "feeling" shall pass. "It's not who I am." For some reason "acknowledging" the depression seems to take some of the power away. Just acknowledging it, knowing it's not shameful or weak, helps me feel more empowered.

There are many natural antidepressant also, that can take the edge off. I've had help through the years with various supplements, and homeopathy...with homeopathy, it helps if you can find a good practitioner.

Just curious if Social Security Disability an option for you?
Something to maybe think about.

Those are a few of the things I try...I sure hope your feel better,
I know it's not easy, your a true warrior, I admire all your determination and perserverance! Keep reaching out for help.
God Bless,

Dancingspirit